newnan man
Gold Member
Bart, one of life's biggest injustices is we cannot choose our relatives.Something I've always wondered about too....just a big ugly mess in the beginning between the 2 of them....then the typical 80s divorce, and remarriage and a stepmother. My mother had much trouble with drugs, and alcohol 🍸 from the time she was 13, and then having me at 17....she's still going the way she always has. It was my grandparents who saved me....thank God!! I also spent a couple years in juvenile detention before my grandparents got me.....it was a mess early on !! Ya see viking.....ya never really know who your talking to online😂🤣
All in all I was damaged pretty good, like we all probably are....when you haven't had something though,....your not really aware you missed anything because you just don't know any better ? We're all damaged goods, just all damaged in our own unique ways !! Sometimes we share the same pains and experiences, and sometimes it's hard to understand what someone's suffering has been like ?
With a friend or an aquaintence I can say lose my number, don't come around, and leave me alone. That marks the end of a friendship, and it's over.....with family we must keep trying....we only get 1 father and 1 mother that are paternal. So I continue to try and have a relationship no matter how difficult and painful it can be. I love my mother and father even though some think I'm nuts for that. Plus they have taught me the most important lesson in life....don't raise a kid the way they tried too !! Its made me the best father I can be !! They succeeded where many parents dont....the lesson is the old one that goes.....don't make the same mistakes we did.
And I have a wonderful wife and my family is now all my inlaws !! They love and accept me for who I am....they support me in my art, my fishing and yachting, my treasure diving and hunting, and have shown me what a family bond truly is.....im healed because I've finally let down my guard and realized some people really do love and support me !! Im blessed !! And now we will bury uncle frank who passed this morning in my wife's arms. Frank wasn't really even an uncle....he was my mother-in-laws, sisters, boyfriend !! But for 25 years....so to make him know we loved him we called him uncle....thats the type of love this family shows people !! Aunt Jill will now come back to the keys and live with the family here...we will take care of her now.