My last post

[RelicMedic]

A friend told me that I should clear up my reasoning, so people don't get the wrong idea. I work full time, and do a fair amount of overtime because I am supporting the whole household. My wife is in school as well as my son. I only got out for a few hours a week, and one full 8 hr day every two weeks. Everyone knows that the hobby entails more than just swinging the coil in your back yard. There is research, permission, etc. To be clear, I always looked after at least 80% of the housework, yard work, helping my wife with her studies as well as my sons homework. Here is where the problem is....I found a killer site that is producing awesome finds. I take a bit of time to clean up and research my finds, overlay maps, and research the original owner of the land....why?..because I'm a history buff and its intriguing. It does not take up all my time, but I get messages and send messages to friends that comment on my finds, or want to help with research. That's the problem. I'm ok to go out for a couple hours a week, but that's it. If I want a couple hours in that week to research etc, then that's all I get. No detecting. So, she is fine with me going detecting for a couple hours a week, but that's it...no research, no phone calls, no messaging. The time I'm home is to be 100% metal detecting free. Rather than argue or fight, I removed my balls and placed them in her hand. That's the truth, that's how it is...I don't like it one bit, but if that's what momma wants....

 

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[fella]

I just don't get these kind of threads. (here comes the inevitable "then why even post blah blah blah")

If you have to leave for whatever your reasons just do it! Nobody here need an explanation.

The whole "this is it, I'm done..." then return a few days later with more story drama just makes one look like they need attention.

I'm sure it sounds more callus than intended! My sleep patterns won't be affected either way!

Good luck!

 

[rock]

Put your MD in storage maybe next yr you will have more time. My family hates my addition also. But before and after there will always be another for me. I dont like sitting at home. Good Luck

 

[pepperj]

A friend told me that I should clear up my reasoning, so people don't get the wrong idea. I work full time, and do a fair amount of overtime because I am supporting the whole household. My wife is in school as well as my son. I only got out for a few hours a week, and one full 8 hr day every two weeks. Everyone knows that the hobby entails more than just swinging the coil in your back yard. There is research, permission, etc. To be clear, I always looked after at least 80% of the housework, yard work, helping my wife with her studies as well as my sons homework. Here is where the problem is....I found a killer site that is producing awesome finds. I take a bit of time to clean up and research my finds, overlay maps, and research the original owner of the land....why?..because I'm a history buff and its intriguing. It does not take up all my time, but I get messages and send messages to friends that comment on my finds, or want to help with research. That's the problem. I'm ok to go out for a couple hours a week, but that's it. If I want a couple hours in that week to research etc, then that's all I get. No detecting. So, she is fine with me going detecting for a couple hours a week, but that's it...no research, no phone calls, no messaging. The time I'm home is to be 100% metal detecting free. Rather than argue or fight, I removed my balls and placed them in her hand. That's the truth, that's how it is...I don't like it one bit, but if that's what momma wants....

So now that you've placed the blame, and it seems that there's a whole lot more issues than what the hobby has added. I see that you still have time to lurk and read the forums every single day, so why don't you just go and take that time and use it for more productive things? Get the home tasks done, put the needy calls on hold for a bit, and just detect when you've earned the points. When somebody or thing starts getting neglected then it's time to slow down that's all. The time your getting out is a bonus and many would be pinching themselves to be that lucky.

 

[team sidewinder]

Everything in moderation.

 

[Escape]

This is my last post...........on this topic.

 

[NW Digger]

Good luck either way, ya know you can always do tot lots, sports fields, etc. they take like 0 time researching and busy ones get depositors all the time!

 

[Treasure finder]

Somehow this post reminds me of a Rottweiller with brass balls. He had no back legs so they
called him "Sparky"!
Rich

 

[kuger]

Ace... your wife must have had something to do with this... you should explain too us how this is ruining your home life so others that may be having the same issue can come too you for help.. Good luck in life and I sure hope you get back out swinging and digging again in the near near future!

I seen a near exact post on another forum and within two weeks the guy was divorced and of course lost everything...it was obvious it was a last ditch attempt at rescue

 

[Frankn]

Somehow this post reminds me of a Rottweiller with brass balls. He had no back legs so they
called him "Sparky"!
Rich

Hate to mess this one up, but brass does not spark, sorry. Frank

 

[lookindown]

A friend told me that I should clear up my reasoning, so people don't get the wrong idea. I work full time, and do a fair amount of overtime because I am supporting the whole household. My wife is in school as well as my son. I only got out for a few hours a week, and one full 8 hr day every two weeks. Everyone knows that the hobby entails more than just swinging the coil in your back yard. There is research, permission, etc. To be clear, I always looked after at least 80% of the housework, yard work, helping my wife with her studies as well as my sons homework. Here is where the problem is....I found a killer site that is producing awesome finds. I take a bit of time to clean up and research my finds, overlay maps, and research the original owner of the land....why?..because I'm a history buff and its intriguing. It does not take up all my time, but I get messages and send messages to friends that comment on my finds, or want to help with research. That's the problem. I'm ok to go out for a couple hours a week, but that's it. If I want a couple hours in that week to research etc, then that's all I get. No detecting. So, she is fine with me going detecting for a couple hours a week, but that's it...no research, no phone calls, no messaging. The time I'm home is to be 100% metal detecting free. Rather than argue or fight, I removed my balls and placed them in her hand. That's the truth, that's how it is...I don't like it one bit, but if that's what momma wants....

I feel sorry for you, I really do...no man should have to live like that, no woman either...very sad.

 

[mercury1]

A friend told me that I should clear up my reasoning, so people don't get the wrong idea. I work full time, and do a fair amount of overtime because I am supporting the whole household. My wife is in school as well as my son. I only got out for a few hours a week, and one full 8 hr day every two weeks. Everyone knows that the hobby entails more than just swinging the coil in your back yard. There is research, permission, etc. To be clear, I always looked after at least 80% of the housework, yard work, helping my wife with her studies as well as my sons homework. Here is where the problem is....I found a killer site that is producing awesome finds. I take a bit of time to clean up and research my finds, overlay maps, and research the original owner of the land....why?..because I'm a history buff and its intriguing. It does not take up all my time, but I get messages and send messages to friends that comment on my finds, or want to help with research. That's the problem. I'm ok to go out for a couple hours a week, but that's it. If I want a couple hours in that week to research etc, then that's all I get. No detecting. So, she is fine with me going detecting for a couple hours a week, but that's it...no research, no phone calls, no messaging. The time I'm home is to be 100% metal detecting free. Rather than argue or fight, I removed my balls and placed them in her hand. That's the truth, that's how it is...I don't like it one bit, but if that's what momma wants....

Wow. There are a lot worse things you could be doing. Take your balls back.

 

[phishisgroovin]

A friend told me that I should clear up my reasoning, so people don't get the wrong idea. I work full time, and do a fair amount of overtime because I am supporting the whole household. My wife is in school as well as my son. I only got out for a few hours a week, and one full 8 hr day every two weeks. Everyone knows that the hobby entails more than just swinging the coil in your back yard. There is research, permission, etc. To be clear, I always looked after at least 80% of the housework, yard work, helping my wife with her studies as well as my sons homework. Here is where the problem is....I found a killer site that is producing awesome finds. I take a bit of time to clean up and research my finds, overlay maps, and research the original owner of the land....why?..because I'm a history buff and its intriguing. It does not take up all my time, but I get messages and send messages to friends that comment on my finds, or want to help with research. That's the problem. I'm ok to go out for a couple hours a week, but that's it. If I want a couple hours in that week to research etc, then that's all I get. No detecting. So, she is fine with me going detecting for a couple hours a week, but that's it...no research, no phone calls, no messaging. The time I'm home is to be 100% metal detecting free. Rather than argue or fight, I removed my balls and placed them in her hand. That's the truth, that's how it is...I don't like it one bit, but if that's what momma wants....

good on ya man, same scenario here.
So i sold my 45/70 lever action rifle & picked up a small rock saw, grinder polisher.
Now i go panning, find rocks and bring them home and make her stuff to wear.

 

[cooper1841]

Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself, put your foot down, be a man and say " Honey can I please go?" Pick you fights man................................Happy wife= Happy life

 

[Muddyhandz]

A friend told me that I should clear up my reasoning, so people don't get the wrong idea. I work full time, and do a fair amount of overtime because I am supporting the whole household. My wife is in school as well as my son. I only got out for a few hours a week, and one full 8 hr day every two weeks. Everyone knows that the hobby entails more than just swinging the coil in your back yard. There is research, permission, etc. To be clear, I always looked after at least 80% of the housework, yard work, helping my wife with her studies as well as my sons homework. Here is where the problem is....I found a killer site that is producing awesome finds. I take a bit of time to clean up and research my finds, overlay maps, and research the original owner of the land....why?..because I'm a history buff and its intriguing. It does not take up all my time, but I get messages and send messages to friends that comment on my finds, or want to help with research. That's the problem. I'm ok to go out for a couple hours a week, but that's it. If I want a couple hours in that week to research etc, then that's all I get. No detecting. So, she is fine with me going detecting for a couple hours a week, but that's it...no research, no phone calls, no messaging. The time I'm home is to be 100% metal detecting free. Rather than argue or fight, I removed my balls and placed them in her hand. That's the truth, that's how it is...I don't like it one bit, but if that's what momma wants....

I'm no professional therapist but holy sheep sh*t, I'd get joint custody and get the hell outta there!

While you're taking on most of the responsibilities with no time for yourself, she's getting an education, which will launch her new career and you'll see even less of her but someone still has to take care of the daily chores and stuff.

I just got out of an 18 year relationship that went toxic. She wanted to pursue her career 24/7 and had NO energy left for me or anything else this fine world has to offer. Her stress levels went through the roof and I saw the person I love, change into someone else.

I'm a very generous person and that seems to attract selfish people.

I'm happy now, with my pair of gonads, a house to myself, and a life I'm in control of.

NOBODY IS GONNA STOP ME FROM DETECTING! NOBODY!!!!

All the best to you.
Dave.

 

[rock]

I understand you have to give in once in a while (married 30 yrs) myself. But you also have to let her know you need some relax time for yourself. So if you get the time to swing it do it she will just have to get over it. Otherwise you will get tired and bored with your life. You have to have a relax time to get rid of stress. JMO

 

[james-florida]

I am 22 years old so I cannot offer much as far as life experience goes. Moments ago, I was lying in bed with my Girlfriend, watching The Big Bang Theory and browsing on the site when I came across this post.

When I seen "my last post" two scenarios ran through my head.

1. Someone is about to commit suicide ( I'm unfortunately used to it being an emt)

2. Some lucky ******* just un earthed a fortune and is posting one last time before moves to the island he just purchased.

I read through all the comments and after a long, meaning of life pause, I turned to my girlfriend.

I said "listen carefully" before I began to read both of ACE's posts.

After I finished reading both posts I looked her straight in the eyes and said "I love you with all my heart, but, if you EVER do anything even remotely similar to what this mans wife is putting him through, we are done."

She looked back at me and said " I love you too, and I would never ask you to stop doing something that you love doing"

I've been with her for 6 years and hopefully a lifetime to go.

If you don't allow yourself any happiness in life, than what's the point? If you are overall unhappy, that just snowballs and rolls into every part of your life.

Don't get me wrong, I understand needing to have priorities in order. but happiness is also a priority.

Like I said, I don't have the life experience that some have on this site.

I wish you the best in life and I hope things get better and sorry for the long post.

 

[g-olden years]

Adios, amigo! Enjoy whatever you do next and don't get bogged down sitting around the house too much! HAVE FUN! Andi

 

[creskol]

I am 22 years old so I cannot offer much as far as life experience goes. Moments ago, I was lying in bed with my Girlfriend, watching The Big Bang Theory ...

At 22 years old .. lying in bed with your girlfriend .. WATCHING the Big Bang Theory .. Watching ? ? ? .. hmm .. something wrong with that scenario ...

 

[dennco2000]

Nobody works more than me (maybe 70 HOURS since last Friday)..... You either run the house or you run around the house... WHICH IS IT?