Thank you for speaking squiggy.
I was impressed with BB's suggestion and a little floored! I should say, "Wow BB, how kind and compassionate, that you would go out of your way, to be cause for another to be comfortable(or at least not be uncomfortable)". That took CONSCIOUS thought, we could all stand to consciously think sometimes, about what falls out of our mouths, myself included!
Didn't Forrest Gump define a gentlemn as, "One who attempts to make others, feel comfortable, in their presence."?
Everyone has invisible triggers and switches.
If I knew a lady I was talking to, had a double radical mastectomy, (If I had breast implants), I wouldn't stand there and rave about how great they are, and they make me a woman, and gloat how women that DON"T have breasts are less of woman.
If I KNEW someone had a deficiency or handicap in a particular area, I would not harp on, or expound with gruesome details, about experiences with "their" situation, that I am sure would CAUSE pain for that person. Sometimes, ppl just don't need the reminders of horrors and loss. I could also, go into many ugly details of A LOT of things, ya'll would probably have ME banned for! LOL! I just don't go certain places....... anymore
for reasons.......
And squiggy is right, in as much, as it has nothing to do with "being liked". I got just as much right as anyone, to be a kind considerate person or be a jerk. You want me to like you, come pay my bills, thank you! LOL! If you can consciously look down at someone, pick their open wounds, and CONSIOUSLY seek to inflict hurt on someone, I try my best to stay away from "those type" ppl, and I KNOW many of them, some I even have to call "family". LOL!
And Dave, I do think you hit mail on head, in that we are conditioned to degrees, for societal acceptance. I feel that has more to do with ego and getting ahead, or over on some one, being "liked", than it does for communal harmony. Folks, (in general) will fight to the death, rather than be deemed as wrong or incorrect, or called out for maybe having "crossed a line"(not an Obama reference, LOL, don't go there, LOL)
I do feel also, as squiggs said, how we handle this IS important. It takes strength to be benevolent, forgiving, humble, giving.
Any old but hole can puff up, strut, and display, it takes a strong person to throw off all the haughtiness, and put on the robe of humbleness.
The things we deem as strengths, seem to be liabilities, where as, things we seem to deem as weaknesses, actually are assets and take MORE strength to accomplish(and are guided by better for all, than selfish motives), imho.
I hope we all do good, because we all matter!
I also have to disclaimer, that, I don't talk good, I forget, go mew mew mew, then forget what we're talking about. So, if I come cross as a Jacksonville train yard derailment, please remember: I do ALL this and MORE!, LOL! With No use of drugs or alchohol! LOL! That's why for me, I have such a good time with a glass of wine, maybe more so, than most! LOL!
And NO, I am not blonde! LOL! See, they'll probably be 47 more posts, before I can scan, edit, re-read, re-correct and hit submit! LOL!
I hope we're still having fun! oh lord help me......... lol!
