So She Said....DO NOT Ask Me To Go With You Again!

[Junk_Puppet]

My on again/off again girlfriend is not wired for the early morning weekend picking thing. I convinced her to escort me to a community sale with 80+ houses and he agreed. You guys know the advantage of having a driver. Bang, bang, bang! In and out without having to park, put in in park, jump back in and drive again. So that was her job....

Things got ugly quick as she refused to do it the way it needs to be done. This of course means pulling up on the wrong side of the street - Or six inches from the guy who is already there - Or exceeding the speed limit once or twice. I was not asking her to mow down any pedestrians or fellow shoppers (Although there are a few I wouldn't mind running over lol)

It was 90 minutes of bickering and she informed me that she was out as the escort for future events. I tried to console her by announcing that we could shop for her (microwave stand, lawn chairs, flower pots) once the morning money making window had closed. I tried to explain to her that those items will be out all day. It didn't matter. She's out. She's done. It back up to me.....Like it has always been

 

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[GibH]

I get the distinct feeling it is soon to be /off again.

 

[Junk_Puppet]

What gives you that idea? Yeah, it's off

 

[GibH]

What gives you that idea? Yeah, it's off

I don't know you, so I can only go by what you posted. By that post post you come off as a self centered control freak. According to you, everything she did was wrong and can do nothing right. God forbid she actually wanted to look as well. Then at the end, you take another jab at her," It back up to me.....Like it has always been".

As I said, I don't know and don't want to pass judgment on someone I haven't met. Your message content does however give a negative impression.

 

[Junk_Puppet]

Yeah. I can be. It's part of the game (morning sales)

 

[kleinerschmitter]

People have a ton of different outlooks when it comes to estate/garage sales. Personally, I enjoy going with my wife as she loves to look at items as well and I'm able to share with her in the moment what I'm finding, but that's what makes me the happiest. I know that without her I could probably move more quickly and go to many more sales but that's not my endgame. If you're the kind of person, and I'm not judging you if you are, who is only looking at the bottom line and that is what makes you happiest, then you shouldn't be trying to include other people because you'll resent them for causing you to miss potential buys and they'll be resenting you because by their opinion you're not spending quality time together. My wife and I have shared a lot of experiences together over the short course of our lives, school, med school, now residency; she is quite literally my other half and in my mind the missed buys are much less valuable than the time I get to spend with her; most of our time is spend daydreaming about the antique dressers and cabinets we can someday put in our house.

 

[jerseyben]

Dude... You made your GF be your driver... Have you had much success with relationships?

 

[pat-tekker-cat]

I don't get it...... I mean, so the op asked his gfriend to be the driver, what's wrong with that?
When she asks YOU for something, do you whine, cry, moan, and groan about it, give her a yeah yeah yeah, and 2 weeks later, she's still asking you to do xyz? Or do you just do it?

I kinda get the same, as when someone (my sig other) asks me to do something, it gets done, promptly. No whining, no discussion, just done.
However, when making my own requests, I have to listen to a series of 20 questions, 30 excuses, a yeah yeah yeah song and dance, and 2 weeks later, I'm the bad person, for still begging someone, to do xyz, for me.

I'm learning. I've started adding to my requests, that are met with anything but action to get it done, to "Just remember that, the NEXT time YOU ask ME, for something, K"!
That seems to be working out pretty good, for me.

 

[billjustbill]

My on again/off again girlfriend is not wired for the early morning weekend picking thing. I convinced her to escort me to a community sale with 80+ houses and he agreed. You guys know the advantage of having a driver. Bang, bang, bang! In and out without having to park, put in in park, jump back in and drive again. So that was her job....

Things got ugly quick as she refused to do it the way it needs to be done. This of course means pulling up on the wrong side of the street - Or six inches from the guy who is already there - Or exceeding the speed limit once or twice. I was not asking her to mow down any pedestrians or fellow shoppers (Although there are a few I wouldn't mind running over lol)

It was 90 minutes of bickering and she informed me that she was out as the escort for future events. I tried to console her by announcing that we could shop for her (microwave stand, lawn chairs, flower pots) once the morning money making window had closed. I tried to explain to her that those items will be out all day. It didn't matter. She's out. She's done. It back up to me.....Like it has always been

You got to that having a girlfriend is the beginning of the road to marriage. So, think of marriage being a lot like Garage Sales....

promise to love her (love those rare and special finds and share them with her), comfort her (when all that's found are clothes and dirty toys), keep her for better (finding bargain treasures you couldn't otherwise afford) or worse ( even when it's bumper to bumper traffic, 105* in the shade, pouring rain, or the road is covered in ice or snow), for richer (selling your finds for triple what you paid) or poorer (paying a dollar for an18kt gold bracelet on a tight budget this month), in sickness (when you just missed the "buy-of-the-year"), and in health (you went to 20 sales and could go another 20 after unloading your truck)

There's the difference between having a girlfriend and being married. When married, she promised to "take you for Better or Worse". Garage sales are actually one of the tests to know if you found the right gal....she may be "worse than you took her for..."

Bill

 

[billjustbill]

My on again/off again girlfriend is not wired for the early morning weekend picking thing. I convinced her to escort me to a community sale with 80+ houses and he agreed. You guys know the advantage of having a driver. Bang, bang, bang! In and out without having to park, put in in park, jump back in and drive again. So that was her job....

Things got ugly quick as she refused to do it the way it needs to be done. This of course means pulling up on the wrong side of the street - Or six inches from the guy who is already there - Or exceeding the speed limit once or twice. I was not asking her to mow down any pedestrians or fellow shoppers (Although there are a few I wouldn't mind running over lol)

It was 90 minutes of bickering and she informed me that she was out as the escort for future events. I tried to console her by announcing that we could shop for her (microwave stand, lawn chairs, flower pots) once the morning money making window had closed. I tried to explain to her that those items will be out all day. It didn't matter. She's out. She's done. It back up to me.....Like it has always been

Having a girlfriend is usually the beginning of the road to marriage. So, You got to think of marriage being a lot like Garage Sales....

promise to love her (love those rare and special finds and share them with her), comfort her (when all that's found are clothes and dirty toys), keep her for better (finding bargain treasures you couldn't otherwise afford) or worse ( even when it's bumper to bumper traffic, 105* in the shade, pouring rain, or the garage sale road is covered in ice or snow), for richer (selling your finds for triple what you paid) or poorer (paying a dollar for an18kt gold bracelet on a tight budget this month), in sickness (when you just missed the "buy-of-the-year"), and in health (you went to 20 sales and could go another 20 after unloading your truck)

There's the difference between having a girlfriend and being married. When married, she promised to "take you for Better or Worse". Garage sales are actually one of the tests to know if you found the right gal....she may be "worse than you took her for..."

Bill

 

[MRBeyer]

While I understand your logic in getting in and getting out. I myself love spending this time with my wife. I have to say, she has excellent taste and has found more than one bargain I missed.

 

[Chizzy]

On or off?
Ask yourself this question: "What would a major remodeling/building project be like with this person?"
Now there's a real test of a relationship...........

 

[captain flintlock]

While I understand your logic in getting in and getting out. I myself love spending this time with my wife. I have to say, she has excellent taste and has found more than one bargain I missed.

I agree!! Of all of the things I taught my wife about sterling, gold etc, who has found the best items that we've done well on? My wife!! And we both go into withdrawal when we can't go yard sale hunting.

 

[Rodbuster209]

I can relate with Junk_Puppet and his fast paced, get to as many as you can,as fast as you can style of hunting, I hunt the same way and my wife refuses to go with me as well. She likes to take her time and look at clothes and such. Good luck!

 

[Beans]

You would have thought you asked her to make you a sandwich.

 

[BagLady]

I love it! We have divided ourselves into 2 groups. "The Haves & The Have Nots"....LOL
I'm a Team player too.

 

[Fushek]

There are only a few things that my wife and I truly enjoy doing together and yard sales is one of those. We enjoy going together and seeing what we can find. Granted, she probably does slow me down some but it's worth the trade off.

Now, if you're in this to make a living (or a substantial part of your income) then I think that changes the game. Personally, I do this as a hobby and to "get ahead a little" so if I miss a thing or two, it's worth the time invested in my relationship. If it was my job or if our house payments depended on it, then I'd expect her to be a driver or maybe we'd divide and conquer.

 

[bigcaddy64]

I wish my GF would actually enjoy the hunt as much as i do but she has reservations about second-hand stuff. She used to go with me, when we first started dating, so she could be with me more but that tapered off quickly due to the nature of people you encounter at sale. She likes people as much as W.C. Fields did, and has the opinions to match. Maybe that is why she works with animals...

We did do something last weekend that wasn't a sale but a private appointment to preview items for sale not associated with the estate company's liquidation. No pressure, no pushy people, just a visit with the son in law at a very nice house to inspect some high priced items. I had a blast and was able to secure 2 visits, post estate sale, and score a huge pile of great items and a free pass to visit as much as i want until escrow closes in a few weeks. It turned out to be too much for her but she does understand why i do it and doesn't attempt to prevent me from doing so.

 

[tamrock]

Huh! This thread kind of reminds me of high school. How odd . So all this other stuff aside did you have any success in finding any treasure.

 

[Oddjob]

Be great if she was in on this discussion too.