PEOPLE ASKING FOR INFO

[Citiboy289]

Excuse me for venting , But does anyone else feel this way :

I respond to many posts seeking Information about research , usually do some and send someone a link

Recently myself and another member responded to an inquiry about location Civil War sites or research info

We both responded , added some links , Infact the other member sent a really great one I had never heard of

So WOULD NOT YOU THINK THAT THE ORIGINAL POSTER WOULD POST A SIMPLE THANKS

NOPE yet they have signed on after our responses

IN MY OPINION , THATS JUST PLAIN RUDE

I belong to other forums and this is the only one I see this happening on

Just had to get that off my chest

 

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[finderskeepers]

YES citiboy...common courtesy seems to have a different meaning these days.It happens in a LOT more places than just this forum. Not making excuses but, it's hard to expect much more when everyone around you acts in the same way. So many people seem more focused on the "ME" part of everything. It's a different world and lots of people have come to demand or expect that they are "owed" something just because they "went through the trouble of asking". Couple this with the thought that what I'm doing right now is of THE utmost importance, until The Next Most Important Thing comes along 30 seconds later. It's certainly a downside to this instant gratification society we seem to be becoming. If all you have ever experienced is the annoyance of being hungry, how will you ever know the fear of starving! Truth and perception are in the eyes of the beholder.

That being said, knowledge and wisdom are wonderful gifts made that much more wonderful by sharing. As the giver, for it to be truly "a gift",it needs to be given freely. There should be NO expectations on our part. Otherwise, that could be construed as selfish, right? Doesn't it make us just like the other person...expecting something in return for our efforts?

You, as the giver, get to decide who, how much,when, and where. It is your gift. You wouldn't expect the guy in the cubicle next to you to give you a couple hundred bucks just because you mentioned you were gonna be short on your mortgage this month? You wouldn't be mad at him if he didn't throw a birthday party for you even though he knows your birthday is this weekend?

Point is...you get to decide when to give or not, and no one has the right to judge you for it. Spend a few minutes looking at someones posts...sometimes, you can get some kind of "sense" about them quickly. In this age of extremes, there are lots of folks don't hold back much one way or the other, LOL! You might actually "get to know" them a little more and be even more helpful by tailoring your advice to more specific needs. If they're new...help them a little, or a lot and show them how to have faith.

For the rest...I still can't even fathom how the most narcissistic, arrogant,slackers haven't seemed to figure out that taking 1 1/2 seconds to type "thank you" (even if you don't mean it)has the potential to save to save immeasurable amounts of their precious time and efforts. If your gonna be a slacker, at least try to be the best slacker you can!

 

[bevo]

citiboy nice avatar. anyway mebbe their such noobs they dont know no better.

 

[Sandman]

I try to help with advice and links to those that ask for it and don't expect a thanks, but it makes me smile more when I get one.

 

[vpnavy]

IMHO - many member's are not very comfortable with this technology. Heck, for some members - this is their first exposure to a forum and probably don't know how to reply to a message and say thanks. Also, based on a lot of posting - many members start a completely new thread to update a find that they posted a day before. Why? They probably don't know that they can go back to their original thread and update it - that is probably similiar to a member leaving a question, seeing that it was answered - they just don't know how to reply. Anyway, that is my humble opinion which normally doesn't mean anything!

 

[jeff of pa]

if it happens more here it is simply due to ratio .
we have the most new members daily on top of the most regular members.

 

[Treasure_Hunter]

We sign up over a hundred new members a day on average, a lot of new members are not only new to treasure hunting, but are also new to forums as well and unsure of proper protocal.

Personally much rather see new members new to both than new members who see it as their duty to argue and ridicule other members.

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[Escape]

I give the worst advise and if I was thanked for it, I would think there was something wrong with you. For example, " If you want to find twice as much treasure in half the time, search with a detector strapped to each arm and have your wife dig the holes."

 

[pippinwhitepaws]

THANK YOU!

 

[dogpound]

maybe he didn't find anything

 

[wainzoid]

I would probably say thank you. But my last 3 threads, that I started, got 0 replies. Maybe I should have posted 'thanks for nothing' :-)

 

[Tony66]

I don't post much but I had to comment here. If a person is going to use this venue/forum to ask questions, (regardless if it was a PM, regular post or even by e-mail), then there should be a thank you. Besides it being the polite thing to do, I think people are more apt to answer more questions when they feel their answer (right or wrong) was appreciated.

 

[luvsdux]

Tony66 makes a good point IMO. I don't much care if I get a thankyou or not, for posting easy, general info type questions, but would certainly appreciate a thanks for anything that required some research or serious effort to offer.
luvsdux

 

[okla. prospector]

I'm new to forums, well this is the first one I have been on and trying to learn it all. If I have upset anyone or didn't say thank you every time I apologize. Some of the stuff is a little confusing and not the easiest to use.
Thanks
Joey

 

[Tony66]

I look at it this way, even amongst my close friends I respond with a "thanks bro", "dude, I owe you one" or whatever. It's just a matter of being polite and having manners. There's no reason why that shouldn't apply to the forum or complete strangers, in fact, it applies even more. Anyway, that's just my opinion. Heck, I'm 47 and still say "yes ma'am" and "yes sir". that's just how I was brought up.

 

[richbat]

You see alot of this nowadays with the younger folks,so maybe he or she is just one of them that fit the category.A simple "Thank You" does go a long ways when you think about it.