Loosing a friend

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flyadive

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Hate to bring this up but my BF's wife whom I'm close to has been diagnosed with cancer stage 4 of the liver, she just wants to go home and die. She only has a couple of days to live because she is refusing treatment. She has a son and two daughters and grand children. She is 56 years old! She is also recently on dialysis and insulin dependent diabetes. Her husband is my Metal detecting partner. ( you would crap yourself if you saw everything he has found with his old RadioShack bounty hunter with a 3 1/2" head!!!!)

What should I do? I want to tell her to fight for her life but it seems she has given up!

I'm so sad for her daughters, they are taking it really hard!

I'm looking for suggestions. ...:(

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if it were me, I would not waste any time being judgemental or trying to "understand" a way of thinking that is impossible to replicate. How can any of us who are not dying in this manner even come close to knowing what it is like? Love, honor , support and comfort both her and her family. Help the family celebrate the life they have built, while there is still time.
 

flyadive said:
Hate to bring this up but my BF's wife whom I'm close to has been diagnosed with cancer stage 4 of the liver, she just wants to go home and die. She only has a couple of days to live because she is refusing treatment. She has a son and two daughters and grand children. She is 56 years old! She is also recently on dialysis and insulin dependent diabetes. Her husband is my Metal detecting partner. ( you would crap yourself if you saw everything he has found with his old RadioShack bounty hunter with a 3 1/2" head!!!!)

What should I do? I want to tell her to fight for her life but it seems she has given up!

I'm so sad for her daughters, they are taking it really hard!

I'm looking for suggestions. ...:(

Life is your greatest treasure!!!!!!!!!
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Sry to hear this prayers for her and the family. The best thing you can do in my opinion is just be there for them.

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Finders, probably has given you the best advice. Just being there for him is your best course of action. I went thru this a couple of years back with my best friend The liver one is bad I watched him go to 80 lb's God I miss that guy.
 

I lost my wife of 18 years 4 years ago to cancer. She fought it for four years .We have a daughter ,who is now 18. It was tough for my daughter ,she really grew up fast ,as she was young ,but really mature and understanding .Time spent with the person is golden . If I were you , just be her friend ,like you always have.Yes ,things are different now because of the illness, but don't dwell on it. Talk about thing like you always have as a friend , cooking ,fishing ,whatever you guys always talked about , listen and laugh , her being happy is the key . God bless her .
 

Cherish the memories you have and make a few more before its too late. Let them know just how wonderful a person they are and how much u have enjoyed there company and friendship through the years.
 

Very sorry to hear. I would refuse conventional treatments, too, but try other treatments, not just do nothing. cancertutor.com/ has 400 cancer treatments listed, but less than 10 for stage IV. It tells about treatments/cures from US clinics & those ones only available in other countries. Just scroll down to stage IV treatments. Best treatments for type & stage of cancer.

Alpha Lipoic Acid, when given intravenously, shrank tumors for, IIRC, 95% of trial participants. Found that on Wikipedia.

Cannabis oil has been used by a few with stage IV cancer. One 80+ man had stage IV lung cancer, fluid building up, given cannabis oil & cancer-free. See 58 minute video "Run From The Cure". Smoking cannabis if the immediate problem is not eating as it comes back up, will help appetite & weight. But only oil form has a good success , this treatment has been used since 2008.

Sloan-Kettering Memorial Cancer Center has much info. IIRC, URL skmcc.org/ I don't know if there is still time, hopefully she could get out of hospital before death & try some treatments. Best wishes.

P.S None of these sites have detectors for sale, so I hope this post can stay.
 

No problem with your post George...

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Cherish the memories you have and make a few more before its too late. Let them know just how wonderful a person they are and how much u have enjoyed there company and friendship through the years.
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This is what I had to do when my dad passed away 3 years ago with Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer. Just cherish the memories and make a few more with them, because I have been there. My dad would have been 73 today, so I have to be glad he is in a better place and not hurting anymore.
 

So true metaldetectingwhiz
 

As for stage 4 cancer, I would absolutley not go for chemo, nor radiation.
There are many alternative treatments for cancer that work well but you may have to leave the country since the AMA and the big pharma corporations don't want us healthy........for her recent diabetes and renal failure, it sounds like no treatment is the best option..........
May God guide and protect her in this journey.......
 

I will pray for her comfort and that of her family and friends.including you.hugs and visits....memories and converstaion....this is what I feel you can offer.If you are so inclined....prayers for her comfortable passing.
be there for them all...I am sure you are treasured as a friend...I type this with tears.
 

sorry for your loss of a friend , your MD buddy will need allot of support coming up.
let me say something else that may help you , my wife recently lost a life long friend that she knew since they were in like the 3rd grade , her friend was one of the longest living kidney recipients in the world. her kidney was failing again and she was on dialysis . she called her family and my wife together and explained she has had multiple transplants in her life and all the pain and suffering that went with it, the sick days where she couldnt get out of bed or felt drained after walking across the room. She was ready to go ,,, and decided to stop all treatments , basically she was tired of being sick and tired.
so with all that , i guess i am saying respect her wishes , she knows how loved she is and she will surely miss you all but she is tired of fighting , let her go .
God Bless you and her Family for caring , it is a testament to her the way you all care for her.
 

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sorry to hear of your friends wife's condition
if she is clear on her desires let her go. your friend and family will need support and encouragement awhile. keep them fed and let grief run its course.
life is not fair but we run it anyway.remember the good times!
 

I'm sorry to hear this,I've had several friends who have lost a spouse due to cancer over the years,one of the best things you can do is to set up a tripod & put a video camera on it & film the person.Have his wife make a video for each one of the kids and husband and her friends,if she was good at something like cooking,sewing,painting,etc. make sure she talks about that.In years to come,the grandkids might want to watch it.
 

Thank you everyone! I'm taking everyone's advice. That's all I can do, she has had a houseful of supporters everyday, she will be missed!

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