Well GoldenIrishman (the other Jeff) gave me a call and here's (kinda) how it went...
GI: wadda ya doing wrong?
me: going crazy trying to separate this
gold from the magnetics.
GI: Calm down GH (grasshopper) and I will show you the way...
GH: I want it now GI...how do I get it NOW?!
GI: You don't GH, you must first re-learn the patients of panning, but now using a magnet.
GH: Huh? Oh I get it...sweep the cons and the gold will remain...but it doesn't!
GI: Tell me GH, are the sands dry or wet?
GH: Dry....now you want me to wet them
GI: No GH, we can work with that. So first...you must learn to "tease" the sands.
GH:
You mean like "wax on...wax off?"
GI: NO! Not quick! Slow. Gradual. Methodical. Ok, picture this. You have your magnet in your plastic cup...right?
GH: Yep.
GI: K. Now find a sweet spot where you can move the magnet over the sands
without collecting any sands...tease it and make it flow away. The tell tale sound tick tick tick means to dump and start over.
GH: K, I'm doing it. Starting over. No sand now...just dance.
GI: K, now begin to collect the smallest of possible samples from the widest spread out sands. (the thinner it's spread, the easier it is to clean up)
GH: K, I gotta light black sanding. Dumped it in the dish and saw only one small fine and all else black.
GI: Good! Now slowly repeat till done.
And so it went till there was no magnetics left. Just a little bit of blondes that panned away quickly. I'll let the pics tell the story...I used magnification where I could as this was some seriously small stuff! GIs method worked great and I recovered at least 95% or more of what I could not have had before. If I want I could go on and go it wet then dry again but no... I'm very happy with the results just as they are.
(Not much sparkles left at all...most all invisible even with magnification)